A Parent’s Grief

I have been troubled lately by hearing stories of other parents whose children have died before them. It’s really a parent’s worst nightmare. It happened to a woman I know just yesterday and I was very shocked as her daughter was only 17 years old and in good health. What comfort can you give parents who have lost a child? When they ask “Why me?” or “Why my child,” what do you say? What can you tell us about death and the hereafter? I would really like to know.

What comes after we die?

What comes after we die?

YEOSHUA:
I have much to say on this topic and there is much to be learned and understood about this. Death is a transformation and not something to be feared. It has been misunderstood for thousands of years. There is no fear to be held in this world as far as death goes. We are only sad because we miss this person in their physical form but these loved ones who pass over are simply moving on to their next experience as a soul. That is all it is. Moving on from one experience to another. We, still here on Earth, need to have this human experience. We have not fulfilled our roles here on this planet yet. Those who have passed on have made a choice, a decision that their time here is complete. We each have several times during our lives when we can make this choice for ourselves. We have obviously chosen to stay here, as we did not feel like it was our time yet. This is the first concept to understand.

As parents, many feel that it is their responsibility to care for and protect their children from harm. This is not always in our control to do so. It may simply come time for our children to continue on to their next experience regardless of where we want them to be. They are held in perfect love and light as they move from this world to the next so there is no need for fear about where they are and what they are experiencing. There are others, loved ones they know, who will be there to greet them and show them how to have their next experience. I will not go into great detail about that type of experience as you will need to feel what that is like first hand. There are almost no words to describe it.

Children choose their families before they come to this earthly existence. There are so many factors involved. There are things they want to learn or experience here on earth—maybe that is sickness, maybe that is family dynamics, maybe that is not for you to ever know. Maybe our children choose to be here as role models to their parents or to teach their parents a life lesson and then it is their time to leave. Maybe in the leaving they have taught their parents the life lesson they needed to know. So, it might be viewed that their death was the trigger of a transformation of the parent that never would have taken place otherwise. It is not for you to judge when a soul leaves this planet as to whether it is good or bad or tragic. It simply is.

Everything is unfolding just as it should...

Everything is unfolding just as it should...

Everything is unfolding exactly as it should in the universe. Acceptance of this principle will help comfort those who grieve and move through the sadness more quickly. Your loved ones who have passed over are always here with you but they exist on a different level or world or dimension. You may interact or communicate with them and you know when they are truly with you. You may feel like calling out to them or feel a breeze on your face or a touch on your shoulder. Do not dismiss this. It is how they let you know they are still with you. Do not doubt this. Feel it–experience them with you. This is how they help you heal and work through your grief. Death is much harder on those left behind but it doesn’t have to be.

Let go and believe that everything has a reason for occurring. There is a divine plan in place for your highest good and to help you in reaching your highest potential. Have faith in this belief and you will find yourself able to move out of grief and back into living with gusto. Shame, guilt, worry, and anxiety may be acceptable in your culture when dealing with death but I ask you to love and laugh, and rejoice in what these dear ones have brought to your life. Celebrate their life by living yours to the fullest. This is the best way to honor them. God bless you. -Yeoshua

MARY MAGDALENE:
A mother who loses her child is almost inconsolable. It is so ingrained in our DNA that we must protect our young that when one is lost, we feel as if we have failed. I am here to say that you have not failed—not in any way, shape, or form. Your love has held them in the space where they needed to be. There is a divine plan in place that even a mother’s love cannot sway. Love your children every day. Appreciate who they are and who they are becoming. Hug them and tell them you love them no matter what they do or say. Love them unconditionally. Never miss a chance to do this.

Never miss a chance to give a hug or a kiss...

Never miss a chance to give a hug or a kiss...

Then, if one day, it is time for your child to move on to their next experience, as Yeoshua explains, let them go. Others who love them and have cared for them in the spirit world will carry them with love and guidance to where they need to go next. There is no need for you to worry about them. They are safe and actually worry more about you and your struggle with them being gone. Celebrate their lives—laugh about things they would have found funny, remember fond memories of your times together, shed a tear if you need to, reach out to them in the spirit world and let them know you are thinking of them. Let yourself feel your way through your grief. This will allow the emotions to flow over you like a stream with its water flowing over the rocks. If you don’t let the emotions flow, they will be stuck and the stream won’t flow and let you move on to where you need to be. We all need to flow in life. Grief, guilt, shame, and worry are feelings that keep you stuck.

Sadness when released is a positive emotion. Let the sadness flow over you and miss the child that has passed over. Then try to move on to whatever you have to do next in your life. That is what your child would have wanted for you. They do not feel bad if you don’t remember them every second of every day. They want you to be happy and fulfilled in your life. They would never have left if they thought you couldn’t move on. There was a reason why they were here and a reason why they needed to go. Be open to finding these answers, as they are a part of your healing and a part of your life path.

Let the emotions flow over you...

Let the emotions flow over you...

My heart goes out to all parents who have lost a child. There is no easy path through the grief and sadness incurred by such an event. Know that you are loved and held in light and love during this time. Reach out to those who can help you through such a difficult time. Use your heart to guide you to those who may have answers for you. This is not a time to struggle through alone. If you are near those who have experienced this first hand, be there for these parents. We are all one — so a grief or a sadness of one parent, is felt by other parents. We all share in these emotions so coming together and supporting one another is the only way to healing for all of us. Thank you for listening. Love and light to all of you on your journey. Namasté, Mary Magadalene.

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This post is dedicated in memorium to Sara.

May she rest in peace and fly with the angels.

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10 Comments

  1. Thelma
    Posted November 2, 2010 at 10:46 am | Permalink

    Incredible insight!!! I had no idea this website was here or even existed. Thank you for imparting and sharing Jeshua’s teachings…

    Thelma

  2. Posted November 2, 2010 at 10:49 am | Permalink

    Thanks Thelma. Enjoy the site!

    hugs,
    Melinda

  3. Pat
    Posted November 2, 2010 at 11:56 am | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing this, Melinda.

  4. Posted November 2, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Permalink

    Thank-you Melinda. Thank-you Yoeshua and Mary Magdalene for this conforting and enlightening message for all of us. I feel blessed in consciousness and in love. Thank-you Rebecca for Sara and for your love to Sara. Meeting you and Sharman and Sara in our trip is a blessing now augmented by her journing to higher Realm. She and all of you and your love are part of our life now and of the growth of love and consciousness on our parts. We gratefully accompany her in her Light transition.
    Love, Peace, Joy. Namaste
    Pilar

  5. Posted November 2, 2010 at 1:30 pm | Permalink

    You are welcome. Thanks for visiting Pat and Pilar!

  6. Katie
    Posted November 3, 2010 at 4:36 am | Permalink

    Thanks for the conforting message yeoshua.

  7. Iona
    Posted November 3, 2010 at 8:29 am | Permalink

    Wonderful words of wisdom Melanie. Thanks so much for sharing.

  8. Posted November 5, 2010 at 1:42 pm | Permalink

    You are welcome, Katie and Iona.

  9. Jeanne Lemieux
    Posted November 8, 2010 at 9:56 pm | Permalink

    Profound and comforting words. May Sarah be held in love and peace and her transition be easy and rewarding. This has helped me to understand better the transition that we will all experience. Thank you, Melinda.

  10. Posted November 8, 2010 at 10:23 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for commenting, Jeanne. I’m glad you found it helpful! ;>)

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Sample E-mail Reading All Women Should Read

I recently came back from an amazing trip to France. I was fortunate enough to travel with a lovely group of people all connected to the Bloodline documentary (which if you haven’t seen, you should. It’s available at Netflix and Blockbuster). It was a spiritual trip that I will never, ever forget. The energy of Mary Magdalene is so strong in the area around Rennes Le Chateau that I even took some of it home with me. I’ll blog more about that trip at a later time when I’ve had more time to process it. When I returned from my trip, I was fortunate to do an email reading for a new friend of mine. I loved the message so much and thought it was so relevant to women and moms everywhere that I asked her permission to share it here. This is an example of my email readings if you are ever interested. These are all channeled answers to this client’s questions. Enjoy!

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1.    Do I really need to leave my current work or is there a niche where I could be happier?

YEOSHUA’S RESPONSE: We are always so pleased when you come seek us out for guidance. But you know, you can speak with us at anytime. You just need to learn to trust your own inner guidance and intuition. But let us get to your questions.

Your current work is like a raft taking you further down stream to where your next assignment is. The more you trust the process of going with the flow (as you call it), the faster your raft will float to its appointed destination. Have faith that all is working according to the plan for your highest good and to help you reach your highest potential. It is all happening as it should. You can effect the timing of it by opening up to your intuition—begin a daily practice of meditation even if it’s only for 5 minutes and then check in before small decisions throughout your day to see what your intuition says. Listen to it, follow it, or don’t and just note what happens. This is how your confidence will grow and your raft will move more swiftly towards where you are meant to go.

It is all part of the beautiful unfoldment of a life worth living. Believe in it. Believe in yourself. So, I hope I have answered your question. I am not always direct and sometimes that is necessary because life is an unfolding. There are lessons to be learned in the unfoldment of it. Do you understand this concept? Good. You are doing well, my loved one.

MARY’S RESPONSE:
Sometimes Yeoshua speaks in circles and some people can find it frustrating but then that’s why I’m here. I can help clarify things a bit. I think you know what he is getting at here. You must continue on your current path to make the connections and hear what you need to hear to guide you in a new direction. Someone will come into your work and tell you about something new and it will change everything. The path before you will suddenly swerve in a new direction. Be open to that, however that happens for you. It is different for everyone.

Change is coming, my love. Be open to more goodness, more light, and more sense of purpose in your everyday actions when this comes to you. Hold space for this to happen in your life. You won’t be disappointed, I promise you that. It’s all good stuff. Have faith and believe that a better life than you can imagine awaits you. Take your family with you. Set an intention that all will be accomplished with grace and ease and the love within your family unit remains safe and simply grows with your own unique expansion. This is how it’s done with women. We go first and our families follow our example.

This is happening everywhere to women. You are not alone in this process. It’s a wave of feminine energy moving across the planet. Answer the call. Stand up and say you want to be a part of this movement towards more peace and love in the world. And it will happen. Namasté, Mary Magdalene.

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Have faith...

2.    What is my true calling?

YEOSHUA’S RESPONSE: Aha! Yes, I believe we answered this question above. It is the process of unfoldment that you need to go through for this to be revealed. You will learn much on the journey and then when your true calling is revealed, all of the pieces will fall into place as if designed by you before you set foot on the planet. And that’s because it was designed then by you with those who stand near to you now. It’s all in divine order and happening at the perfect time for all of us. The universe is unfolding as it should.

The best suggestions I can give is to watch your intuition, listen to the silence, and follow your heart. It will never steer you wrong. Listen to your son. Listen to the artists, the writers, and the musicians. They are the ones who have been listening longer than you and I. Messages will come to you through music and books and art. Look for them. Take note. Be still and listen. Doing this will help you practice what you need to so you can discover your true calling. It will be beautiful. I can’t wait for this to happen for you. It as if the tight rosebuds of women around the world are beginning to relax and bloom openly and fully taking in the sunlight and making the world a better place. This is what is in store for you, my loved one.

MARY’S RESPONSE: I defer to Yeoshua’s answer in this regard as I think it is well put. We are all roses opening up to our own potential and to our purpose for being on this earth. We walk this path together hand in hand. The community of women and children come together to support each other as we walk these uncharted waters. It is with great love and support that I cheer you on your path. Your husband also supports you in this. He has chosen this role for this lifetime to help you in this regard. Don’t worry about it. Be strong and he will be by your side supporting you no matter how you transform. You will find great beauty not only within but in the faces and hearts of those around you. Transformation can be done with grace, ease, and beauty. Just look at the butterfly. Keep this in mind through the next few months and watch the magic unfold.

Watch how you transform...

Watch how you transform...

3.    What do I need to do to access my inner self? Coaching, meditation etc.

YEOSHUA’S RESPONSE: I feel we have touched on this in our answer above. But I will again suggest watching and listening to your intuition in regards to all of your decisions all day long. It is a way of training your mind to think of your heart first. Check in and decide how to move forward. Once you begin this practice, you will gain confidence in your ability. Now I am talking about the mundane not major decisions. Ask what you should buy at the grocery store, ask what streets will be less crowded to get you to your destination, ask in your relationships about the best approach, and remember take your time. Many women rush too much. There is no race here except one of your own creation. Slow down. Take your time. Listen.

This is the women’s way that has been forgotten for thousands of years. Your man will begin to notice your practice and so will your son. Share your experiences with them. If their eyes glaze over, stop. Do not be discouraged by this but when the opportunity comes again to share about it, do so. It is important the men re-member this from the women and children in their lives. They too, need to listen and tune in so the world will be a better, softer place in which to live. This is the task put before all women right now. Learn your own skills with intuition and listening to spirit and then share it with those around you – men, women, and children. We all need to do this to evolve into our next state of consciousness. It will be beautiful.

MARY’S RESPONSE: Well said by Yeoshua. I simply want to add that I know as a mother it can be difficult to find the time to rest and listen. Please make the time. It is important not only for you but for the peace of your family. Do it for them if you cannot do it for yourself. It will help them in the long run. The woman is the heart of the family. If she is not taking care of herself, guess what happens to the family? Yes. This is what has been happening over the past 50 years much to the detriment of our families and communities. It is time to turn the tide.

Be the change. Set an example for other women around you not by being boastful but by quietly practicing these techniques and sharing them as it comes up in conversation. You understand? Good. So, take time to just look out the window with a cup of tea in hand. Take time for a luxurious bath. Take time for a walk in nature. Find beauty and you will find your own beauty mirrored in front of you. This is the journey before you. I invite you to walk it with me. Will you join me? I am here for you always. Love, Mary Magdalene

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  1. stephanie
    Posted July 17, 2011 at 2:08 am | Permalink

    funny that, I am in my bath, having a cup of tea and listening to my children play outside… and with those words the bit of guilt I felt doing so just vanished, leaving just happiness! thanks…

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  1. stephanie
    Posted July 17, 2011 at 2:08 am | Permalink

    funny that, I am in my bath, having a cup of tea and listening to my children play outside… and with those words the bit of guilt I felt doing so just vanished, leaving just happiness! thanks…

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Find the Beauty

This is a channeled message from Mary Magdalene:

Look for beauty...

Look for beauty...

It is my wish for you to know today, right now, that life is beautiful. In every twist and every turn, there is beauty to be found. This is your challenge. This is your call to find it. It is there. Look around and find the beauty in a conversation with another, in a flower, in the grace you can find within yourself given a challenging situation. There is beauty everywhere to behold and appreciate if you take the time to find it.

You see, we cannot live without beauty. When we deny the presence of beauty in our lives, we deny our own authentic nature. We deny who we truly are. We deny our own divinity as human beings. So, take the time right now to recognize the beauty in others, the beauty in nature, and the beauty you hold within. There is great power and grace in taking this action. It immediately takes you back to who you are. Know this and have faith that beauty is there in every situation. You just need to look and find it.

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  1. Jeanne Lemieux
    Posted October 11, 2010 at 5:40 pm | Permalink

    I really like this, Melinda. I feel this when outdoors, in my garden or connecting with Nature. Also seeing parents care for a sick child or people gathering at the bed of a dying patient and expressing their love. In the faces of my elderly patients. Hearing my 3 year old granddaughter singing to herself in all innocence, making up works that come straight from her heart. There is so much beauty in the world. Mary is right to remind us to take the time to appreciate it. Thank you for this lovely message.

  2. Posted October 11, 2010 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

    You are welcome, Jeanne. I love hearing how you find beauty in your life. Thanks for visiting my site.

    :>)

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  1. Jeanne Lemieux
    Posted October 11, 2010 at 5:40 pm | Permalink

    I really like this, Melinda. I feel this when outdoors, in my garden or connecting with Nature. Also seeing parents care for a sick child or people gathering at the bed of a dying patient and expressing their love. In the faces of my elderly patients. Hearing my 3 year old granddaughter singing to herself in all innocence, making up works that come straight from her heart. There is so much beauty in the world. Mary is right to remind us to take the time to appreciate it. Thank you for this lovely message.

  2. Posted October 11, 2010 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

    You are welcome, Jeanne. I love hearing how you find beauty in your life. Thanks for visiting my site.

    :>)

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