Recently I had this question for Yeoshua (Jesus): What do you do when you just don’t see eye to eye with your partner on an issue like a vacation. Your partner wants to go to one vacation spot and you want to go to another. How can you resolve these conflicts without giving up your sense of self or without just settling on something to please the other person? What recommendations do you have?
Vacation issues...
YEOSHUA: Ahhh, yes. It is called marital bliss but it is not always so, yes? I’m laughing. Couples have been faced with similar situations since the beginning of time. So what to do? Listen to your heart and let it guide you. Know that there is really no time limit on a decision as this. Do not let your own sense of getting it done now make you rush your partner into a decision they are not comfortable with. You want the vacation to be wonderful for you both. Hold space for that to happen by not getting too attached to any one outcome. Visualize yourselves on vacation and very happy and content. Visualize yourselves coming home and saying that this was the best vacation ever. You don’t need to include details about where you went.
Just feel the feelings you want to have while you are on vacation and when you return home. Hold that feeling in your heart and accept it as the gift it is. This is your way of setting intention for the trip. Once you have done this, return to your partner or spouse and continue discussions on where to go and what to do. This discussion will go much better and be more productive now that you have done the work of setting intention. You understand this, yes? It is simple.
Remember to breathe, remember to not judge your partner, and remember to listen.
